Look closely at this picture. What do you see?
A woman with a pretty face, dressed in red, white and blue, representing a culture of truth that Love doesn’t cheat on you!
I’m traveling back and forth trying to embrace the exploration of a love affair overseas, and in doing so, I stumbled upon another culture of truth that Dominican men will love you, but they will cheat on you!
(*My source remains anonymous)
I know I should not generalize or stereotype all Dominican men into this stigma, but I’m solely referring to mine.
3 years of long distance dating, we are both trying to figure out how we can be together in one country. I kept wanting to give up because the fight was too long suffering. It was hard for us to trust what each other was doing from day-to-day. Not to mention the cultural differences and language barriers that added more challenges to the relationship. Visitors visas, fiancé visas, spousal visas… which one were we to choose? Walking away from him, I had nothing to lose, but love. All the empath wanted was love.
He led me to believe he loved me and that he wanted us to be together, but what he failed to tell me that cheating is normal.
I don’t know if I believe if he thinks cheating is normal; who can believe anything like that? Who would accept anything like that? Did he really expect me to be that wife? Here is where we disconnect. I know that in my country, cheating is not acceptable. I wanted to make that very clear to him. I did not want a cheating husband.
Being the woman that I am, I had to acknowledge the fact that this will not be my new normal. I decided to sabotage that!
I went through his cellular phone and I discovered many conversations he had with other women. I confronted him and I told him that I could not marry him like this. I took the initiative to contact a few of his women. I knew he wouldn’t like that! They all went back and told him I did that! He thought it was a crime! Yet in fact, the idea that he thought I was going to marry him knowing all the facts, and tried to turn the blame on me, what a narcissistic act!
I’m very proud of myself for standing up for what I believe in. I quickly decided I was not not settling for that.
My trip to Punta Cana was good although, we did not get married. We have learned that we have different cultural morals and values. We tried to make it work, but it’s not. He has a strong personality, but a lack of understanding for my culture. I understand his, but I’m not willing to sacrifice nothing for what I believe I should have or deserve. I release you from my soul, Narcissist Unknown!
Although our countries represent the red, white and blue, we can not always assume that both cultures will embrace the fact that Love Doesn’t Cheat on You!
Peaceful goodbye Punta Cana!
I AM a Woman
I AM a Mother
I AM a Daughter
I AM a Sister
I AM a Christian
I AM an Author
Turning 50 in July, I have realized that my list continues to grow on who I AM or who I have become to be. I can truly say, I AM Grateful.
I wasn’t planning to celebrate my 50th birthday, until one of my girls decided I should.
Travel is always a good way to celebrate a milestone, therefore I chose Los Angeles, California.
Palm Trees, Mountain Breeze, and the food deliciously yummy.
Arriving at LAX, with two of my friends, we chose a nice Air BnB Plus contemporary Spanish style house in mid city Los Angeles. This place was perfect for a girls trip for three. With two bedrooms, full kitchen, front porch and a serene back courtyard, we had all of the amenities we needed.
After we checked into the Air BnB, we decided to get out for a bite to eat. We had a full list of eateries on our itinerary. We had to check out Te’Kila! Omg, I fell in love with their lime wings!
After dinner we walked the boulevard until we ran into a roadblock where they were filming a movie. Yep, this is Hollywood! Lol
It was my bright idea to attend the taping for a talk show, which had us to start our day very early. We were told the traffic is LA was horrible. We were somewhat prepared.
Guess which Talk Show we went to!
This was a long process to attend the taping for this show. We discovered that the people who live in LA actually attend those tapings on a regular basis. I found that to be very interesting. The giveaway was a $200 gift card from Franne Golde, which actually turned out to be a nice gift.
That was Day 1 in LA. Stay tuned for more shenanigans on how I celebrated turning 50 with my friends.
Wow! It’s been a long time since I have blogged. May 31st to be exact.
Where was I?
Working, celebrating and planning!
My oldest son graduated from high school and I’m so thankful to my Lord that He allowed us to see this big accomplishment.
I am thankful for everyone who has contributed with their time, prayers, thoughts, and financial blessings. Thank you. I pray that my son will move through life making decisions that will build his success and will help others
What A Blessing!
As we close out the school year, Lord I am grateful for your mercy. With everything going on in our school systems, let the school administrators revisit policies and procedures for the next school year.
- School violence
- School fights
- The use of cellphones in class
- Disrespectful students
- Disrespectful administrators
- Overcrowded schools
And the list continues to grow. I’m just grateful my sons made it through another year of school. I’m praying for a safe summer time off for everyone.
All I could do was kick off my shoes and relax my feet and just kick it.
Congratulations Tillman Fertitta
Your team did an excellent job! I am impressed.
Many of us live and never travel. With the responsibility of living life daily, failure is a part of life! We know that life’s choices has consequences, and this is why we travel! To get away from it all and just breathe and relax!
Lately I’ve been seeking God’s will because I want to know what God’s will is for me. Although I have been taught, I wanted to know for myself what the word says and what is true.
I searched scriptures relating to God’s will. He knows the plans he has for you, plans to prosper you, not to harm you and to give you hope and a future. Well, that is promising. We should also give thanks in all circumstances. Not a few, but all circumstances. That’s like saying, Thank you Lord, all day everyday.
He wants us to come to a knowledge of the Truth. What is truth to you?
From IAH to SDQ
Trip No. 10
Dominican Republic ~ When I am there I feel free. Flying into the capital (Santo Domingo) and a two hour scenic drive to a Romantic beachfront property in Uvero Alto and then back to the capital… Lord, I’m so in love!
You don’t want me to acknowledge the pain.
You only want me to acknowledge the good again.
Now that I’ve turned my back to you, I know you’re hurting too, but what are you teaching me?
Not to be blue?
Just as you think of me daily, the consequences of your actions reminds me daily not to let you back in until you can acknowledge the pain I’m in!
What you’ve learned to accept in your culture may not be ok in mine. If you can’t live without me, then you have to confess that what you feel is true.
Which is… You can’t be without me and you don’t want to be blue!
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