Look closely at this picture. What do you see?
A woman with a pretty face, dressed in red, white and blue, representing a culture of truth that Love doesn’t cheat on you!
I’m traveling back and forth trying to embrace the exploration of a love affair overseas, and in doing so, I stumbled upon another culture of truth that Dominican men will love you, but they will cheat on you!
(*My source remains anonymous)
I know I should not generalize or stereotype all Dominican men into this stigma, but I’m solely referring to mine.
3 years of long distance dating, we are both trying to figure out how we can be together in one country. I kept wanting to give up because the fight was too long suffering. It was hard for us to trust what each other was doing from day-to-day. Not to mention the cultural differences and language barriers that added more challenges to the relationship. Visitors visas, fiancé visas, spousal visas… which one were we to choose? Walking away from him, I had nothing to lose, but love. All the empath wanted was love.
He led me to believe he loved me and that he wanted us to be together, but what he failed to tell me that cheating is normal.
I don’t know if I believe if he thinks cheating is normal; who can believe anything like that? Who would accept anything like that? Did he really expect me to be that wife? Here is where we disconnect. I know that in my country, cheating is not acceptable. I wanted to make that very clear to him. I did not want a cheating husband.
Being the woman that I am, I had to acknowledge the fact that this will not be my new normal. I decided to sabotage that!
I went through his cellular phone and I discovered many conversations he had with other women. I confronted him and I told him that I could not marry him like this. I took the initiative to contact a few of his women. I knew he wouldn’t like that! They all went back and told him I did that! He thought it was a crime! Yet in fact, the idea that he thought I was going to marry him knowing all the facts, and tried to turn the blame on me, what a narcissistic act!
I’m very proud of myself for standing up for what I believe in. I quickly decided I was not not settling for that.
My trip to Punta Cana was good although, we did not get married. We have learned that we have different cultural morals and values. We tried to make it work, but it’s not. He has a strong personality, but a lack of understanding for my culture. I understand his, but I’m not willing to sacrifice nothing for what I believe I should have or deserve. I release you from my soul, Narcissist Unknown!
Although our countries represent the red, white and blue, we can not always assume that both cultures will embrace the fact that Love Doesn’t Cheat on You!
Peaceful goodbye Punta Cana!